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Five Steps For Dealing With Failure

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Dealing with failure is one of life’s lovely inevitabilities.

No matter what you do, at some point in time you will have to face the humiliating nature of metaphorically falling flat on your face. Ain’t life grand?

Some of us have become so terrified of failure that we actually let it dictate our lives. We don’t try new things. We procrastinate hoping the opportunity will expire. We stay stagnant to avoid any risk. Read More

How to Throw a Vision Board Party to Jumpstart Your Year

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AS A LIFE COACH, I’VE REALIZED MOST NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS USUALLY DON’T WORK.

Ugh, I know. I hate that our goals in January start off with such intense passion and then wane off by mid February. We have such high hopes, but then we have trouble sticking to them. I am sure a lot of you are already feeling the pain of keeping up your New Year’s Resolutions and we aren’t even too far into January!

The struggle is definitely real. We need something to keep us accountable all year long. Something that is inspiring, motivating, and encourages us to continue on even when we feel down in the dumps.

That’s why I like to make vision boards.

In fact, I believe in vision boards so much, that I threw a party with my friends to make them together. My vision board party was a major success, so I want to help you throw one, too!

THROWING A VISION BOARD PARTY

Vision board parties are a fun, fresh and positive way to welcome in the new year with your friends and family! They combine social energy, accountability, crafting, and goal setting all in one party. What could possibly be better than that? When I threw one, it drew a lot more interest than a typical party and people still talk about it to this day. I wish it was because I was such a spectacular host, but in reality, it’s because everyone got something deeply meaningful out of the night that could carry them through the entire year.

So first, what’s a vision board?

Vision boards are a poster with visual cues and reminders for your goals in life. They are collage representations of the hopes and dreams we have for our life. They can be very busy with lots of pictures and visuals all over the place, or they can be spread out and organized. No vision board will look the same. I like to have all of my clients make vision boards because they are a enjoyable and creative way to figure out who you are and what you want for your life. Lots of my girls tend to have a hard time describing who they are and what they want, which is normal! That’s what we are here for as coaches.  But, making a vision board is a great, relaxing way to identify what you value and desire.

Plus, you get to hang it up all year so you have a constant reminder of what you are chasing!

HOW TO PREP FOR A VISION BOARD PARTY:

1. Gather materials: You will need magazines, poster board, glue and scissors. It’s important to note that the type of magazine you buy has a great impact on the kind of vision board you can create. For example, magazines that are uplifting and inspiring will have much better visuals than magazines who simply focus on celebrity gossip.
2. For extra fun, allow your friends to bring friends. For a party like this one, “the more, the merrier” is totally true!
3. Create a playlist of music that makes you happy and inspired. You will all need to have your creative and “big picture” hats on, so music that evokes positivity is a big plus.
4. Snacks aren’t necessary but always appreciated, and fun drinks are a plus too – think sparkling wine or something equally special! It’s a great time to celebrate the wins you have yet to have.

HOW TO MAKE THE VISION BOARD BOARD:

**Remember that most people are going to want a little guidance (even if they are familiar with the concept!) so share these tips with your guests.

During the process, my vision board planning got a little messy, to be sure to have some time for cleaning up afterwards!

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1. First rule: there is no *right* way to make a vision board. Each vision board will reflect the hopes, dreams, and personality of each individual, so carbon copies of the same vision board is NOT the goal.
2. Some people choose to make certain areas of the board about certain things, like family, relationship, career, travel, self, religion, etc. This can help you recognize which areas need more attention in the coming year. You can also just flip through magazines and cut out whatever inspires you and fit on on your poster board wherever it fits – as I said, there’s no right or wrong!
3. Don’t limit yourself and tap into the dreaming you were able to do as a child. If you want to put a yacht on there, do it! Trip to Asia? Do it! There is no “silly” vision or grandiose dream. If you can envision it, then it belongs on the board.
4. Most people like to do a mix of pictures and words. Cutting out different letters from different magazines and stringing together a word that is inspiring is a great addition to your vision board.
5. Don’t overthink and don’t stress. Your vision board won’t look perfect and it is definitely not supposed to hang in a museum. There’s no judgment in vision boards! (Seriously – my husband put a bunch of steaks on his!)
6. Look at examples – sometimes seeing what other people have done is really helpful. You don’t need to mimic it, but you can get a good idea of the basics.
7. Once you’re done, walk around the table or area where you’ve been working and admire everyone’s board! Share your stories about your board and listen to others’ stories, too. It’s so fun to see the hopes and dreams of the people you love.

Lastly, hang your vision board somewhere you can see often. This is what mine looked like: 

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It now hangs in my office so I can see it daily. I always have a reminder of what it is that I am working towards and my core desires in life. I love it. It’s also great to be able to monitor your progress and smile as you mentally cross things off on your vision board! You’ll be surprised how quickly you will need a new vision board because many of your goals have been accomplished and you have new ones to filter in. You never want a stale vision board, so perhaps this vision board party can become an annual tradition.

Good luck and happy vision boarding!

 

How to Stop Procrastinating and Get Stuff Done

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Welcome to adulthood. The land of paying bills, never having enough money to do so, desperately trying to get eight hours of sleep, but also constantly having to get stuff done. And as a procrastinator, you’re not loving this transition. Yes, procrastinating might have worked in college (overnighters were your jam), but it doesn’t quite have the same effect now. In fact, it’s finally time to learn how to stop procrastinating – or else you’re worried you might drown in your own anxious adult head! Read More

Your Pride is Holding You Back. Here’s How to Stop It.

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If you are anything like me, then pride has played a beneficial role in your life. It’s saved you from embarrassing and cringeworthy situations. It’s made sure you held yourself together during trying and unhappy times. It’s tempered your emotions and calmed you down when your self-confidence was being beaten to a pulp. But, I hope you also realize, that your pride is holding you back. Read More

How to Know When Your Goals are Hurting You

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At Blush, we are all about setting goals. But it’s good to be able to understand when your goals are hurting you.

 

Fitness goals, career goals, relationship goals, personal goals – we don’t discriminate. We love ’em all. But occasionally we run into clients feeling paralyzed by their goals instead of motivated and inspired. This is normal in small doses – goals can be overwhelming and intimidating. They take work, time, and remind us that we juuuuuuuust aren’t quite there yet (boo). But after a few minutes of feeling tripped up – the healthy goals inspire us to keep going. Read More

Tips on How to Feel Grateful

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Knowing how to feel grateful is one of the key elements to happiness.

 

But feeling grateful can be an enlightening, but also challenging process. It’s not easy to acknowledge the things that don’t get done or the prayers that seem to go unanswered. Add to that the myriad of status updates, photo collages, and other news posted on social media by family and friends every day, and anyone can find themselves feeling a bit discouraged with where they are,  or deflated about where they’re headed. Read More