My profession is a bit of a contradiction.
Life coaching is all about self-improvement. Get up early! Be productive! Think positive! Get the job!
But it’s also all about self-acceptance. You’re beautiful the way you are! They should love you for you!
Of course, those examples are exceptionally easy. Accept what you cannot control, and improve on what you can.
You have power over your alarm clock, but generally, you can’t control your metabolism (GOD I wish). So we like to redirect focus to what you can control – you know – good foods, exercise, and body positive affirmations.
But I have to admit, there is one FINE LINE between self-improvement and self-acceptance. It’s not always so cut and dry, and sometimes it’s really hard to tease out what is innately a part of you and what you can mold to your desire. Are you really able to change every little thing about you? And if you can, should you want to?
And what about those behaviors you aren’t necessarily proud of – like stubbornness, being opinionated, or a lack of sensitivity that you desperately wish you could change, but no matter HOW hard you try, you don’t quite budge. Are those traits unalterable? Or are you not trying hard enough? And at some point – when does it become not even worth it anymore?
I’ll admit – I don’t have all the answers.
These types of questions could take years to figure out. It requires a lot of dedication to the self, and a deep analysis of all your little quirks. But it’s worth diving into. So here’s how to tell if something is just apart of who you are and not worth messing with, and what you should focus on improving.
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