Today we are going to tackle a *fundamental* part of life coaching: learning how to build your self-esteem.
We are going to go over five simple steps to get you started. And, the good news is, if you’re more of a video person, Coach Elise recorded these five steps for her weekly series, Five Tip Friday! Be sure to follow us on Instagram if you’d like to stay in the loop 🥰
Let’s get started.
Acknowledge Your Personal Strengths
This is personally one of my favorite tips in life. Why focus on your weaknesses when you can hone in on your strengths?
Before you even TRY to say “you don’t have any” – stop. I’m not here for that kind of attitude. You do have strengths. And by “strengths” – I don’t necessarily mean talents. Strengths can be all sorts of things. For example, one of my strengths is being efficient. I love efficiency. I love getting things done in a very timely manner so I can chill out for the rest of the evening. It brings me joy.
Is efficiency considered a talent?
Not….really.
But that doesn’t take away from the fact that I am very good at getting shit done.
So what are your strengths? And for that matter, what are your talents, too? Are you a good public speaker? Chef? Designer? Writer?
Are you organized? Detail oriented? Communicative? Kind? Funny?
These traits do not define who we are – but they certainly give us clues. And the more you focus on what makes you different, the more familiar you’re going to be with what makes you excel.
The goal is to set yourself up for success. Don’t worry – it’s not like you won’t be faced with your weaknesses every damn day. You will. So feel free to indulge in your strengths whenever possible so you can begin to feel GOOD about yourself.
Embrace Optimism
Feeling optimistic just feels GOOD. Believing that things will work out for a reason – or that everything will end up being okay – gives us a sense of peace. So when you are trying to figure out how to build your self-esteem, it’s important to incorporate optimism in appropriate situations whenever possible.
I mean seriously, what’s the worst that could happen? You’re disappointed after having your hopes up?
As Ted Lasso says – it’s not the hope that kills you. You’re going to be disappointed regardless of what happens.
But being optimistic builds your self-esteem, confidence, resilience, and of course – positivity. We become much. happier people in general when we’re not bogged down by the “what ifs.”
So go on.
Unleash your inner positive side and try not to worry too much about what’s coming next. Instead, practice gratitude. focus on what you have today and now (it’s more than you realize) and try not to get too caught up in the pessimism trap. Optimism is your new best friend.
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