There’s an epidemic attacking this generation.
I’m sure of it. And not just because I feel like it’s personally attacking me as well, but because it’s attacking my clients. My gorgeous, high-functioning, creative, intelligent, and successful clients. I mean these are girls who PAY PRECIOUS MONIES to talk to someone about their goals, dreams, and setbacks. These girls have their shit together, ya know?
And most of them don’t have any friends.
Ok, that’s a lie. They have one or two. But it still hurts me when I hear these amazing girls say “I have no friends”.
I wrote a post not too long ago on what to do when you have no friends. I talk all about how to make female friends, and while I’m not reneging it, that doesn’t mean I don’t still personally struggle with this whole female friendship thing, too. Deep down, I only have a few close friends. But I have a looooot of acquaintances. Close ones, too. Acquaintances are fun! But they don’t always show up. And recently I had a rude awakening just about how true that really was.
I’m not going to go into details, but let’s just say I cried for about a week straight. Why does nobody like me!? I begged my journal for answers. I felt like a loser.
My poor therapist!
So while I was having a meltdown of my own, I was looking around at the strong women in my life and in my screen (clients, get it?) and totally realized that they were in the same boat as me! They had a few true friends they could *really* rely on. A handful that actually understood them. And…maybe one or two that would actually show up.
That’s considered lucky, y’all.
So let’s talk about why this happens, why it’s also normal, and even some things you might want to tweak. Full disclosure: most of this stuff you might already know. You’ve experienced it firsthand. But maybe it will make you feel less alone.
Because you know what? You’re not a loser.
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1. We move a lot
Sorry, correction: We move a shit ton.
And even if you despise moving and like your roots to be thick and sturdy – one of your friends moved. That’s for damn sure. There is zero possible chance that every one of your few friends went to high school, college, and grad school, and had their first job in the same city.
I call BS.
Moving is just way too common and feasible at this day in age for that to have not happened. And while yes, we have lightning speed technology to bridge the gap between the long distances – we all know it’s still not the same. Only the strongest of friendships survive that.