Think you’ve got confidence? We do, too. But just to be sure, we’ve detailed the most consistent qualities we’ve seen that constitute what it is to be a confident woman.
We’ve noticed that these 10 qualities of confident women are common in a lot of our clients, and they’re simple to adopt. If you need some extra help (don’t we all???) you know that’s what we’re here for. And if you ever feel that jerkface insecurity sneaking back, skim through this list, and check out the qualities of confident women.
1. They Wear Whatever They Want
Try telling a confident woman to “cover up” in mid-August. Just go ahead, try.
See…you won’t do it, because they will seriously LAUGH in your face. Plus you’ll just fuel the extra ammo they needed to turn around and rock that crop top on without a care in the world. They wear what they like, when they like, how they like, and they don’t let eye rolls get in the way of that. I mean, their basic MO is –If you don’t like my outfit, then why are you looking at me in the first place?– Preach.
2. They Say No
It’s pretty simple: they don’t overcommit and they don’t make false promises. They. Say. No. Because they’ve learned that boundaries are an essential part of their mental health. Hell, they even utilize the RSVP instead of shading out (rude). Confident women understand that certain obligations are necessary, but they don’t try to attend/host/create/chair/be everything. They don’t even pick up the phone or answer the text when it’s not the best time or place for them. They know better. Too many commitments lead to shady exits or complete burnout. And with everything they are working towards in their life – they simply can’t take that risk.
3. They Listen
While confident women trust their own judgment, they also are secure enough to listen to others’ opinions. Now, they won’t necessarily like what they hear all the time, but listening is the highest form of respect. If they ask a question, they know better than to ignore the answer. Confident women can blend their own ideas with those of others, or respectfully choose to decline enacting a suggestion after genuinely listening to its pros and cons. While talking may seem like a trait of confidence, don’t let silence fool you. Confidence is all about the ears, my friends.
4. They Admit Their Flaws
No one is perfect. And as much as we hear this phrase, too many of us do not take it to heart. Confident women not only admit their imperfections -they applaud them. They know where their strengths lie, where they can improve, and when to get the heck outta dodge and let others take the lead. Trying to be perfect at everything is inefficient and pointless, plus perfect people are truly boring. Confident women love themselves for who they are, and who they’re not.
5. They’re Open to Love
Confident women know they don’t need a relationship – but they treat every single one like a bonus.
Regardless of how brutal or shameful one’s romantic past may be, the opportunity for love is never off the table. The reward of romantic connection always out weights the risk of heartbreak, because confident women know they can withstand the wrath of any future rejection. A failed relationship is an opportunity. Confident women reflect on why it didn’t survive (they were stupid), work to better their own unfavorable behaviors (ok maybe I told them they were stupid a lot), and then search for a more compatible partner (one that isn’t stupid).
But seriously, confident women don’t let their past hold them back, because they know they are worthy of a great relationship, strong enough to survive if it doesn’t work out, and awesome enough to withstand rejection.
6. They Ask For Help
So important. They know trying to accomplish everything alone is virtually impossible. Confident people don’t feel threatened or belittled by seeking help from coaches or counselors. They understand it’s beneficial and smart to talk to others about their issues, instead of trying to keep everything together at every moment of every day. As much as confidence is our weapon against doubt, it also needs to be nurtured from an outside source. Our confident attitudes need some love too, ya know, so we must always utilize support.
7. They Don’t Conform
Let’s just say they left their desire to ‘fit in’ next to their obnoxious Spice Girls posters and whiny Tamagatchis. Conforming out of the sheer desire to be liked makes about as much sense to them as trying to learn the flute in order to become an excellent chef. It’s a complete waste of energy and does you zero good.
Of course, they recognize that not everyone will share the same beliefs, and that’s perfectly okay with them. As long as they can do their thang without judgment, they don’t have a problem with others’ tastes or motivations.
8. They Own Their Feelings
Fighting stinks, but no matter what the circumstance is, confident women strive to understand their emotions and they own up to them. They understand that hiding anger, sadness, jealousy, or any other bratty feeling only makes it worse. Confident women take the opportunity to express themselves without blaming others, and confirm that they are understood. They return the favor by listening to the other side, and then, they ride off into the sunset with their homies and get ice cream because it’s all good now.
9. They Release Guilt
Guilt is supposed to be a temporary emotion. It pushes you to understand your actions, act to correct the mistake, and apologize. But that’s it. Guilt is not meant to wreak havoc on our emotional foundation. The longer it sits, the more it festers. Plus it will single handedly destroy any confidence or self-love we have worked so hard for! I mean, y’all should know this by now, considering what the wretched emotion did to that poor viral dog. So much guilt. So. Much.
10. They Support Others
Confident women love watching their friends soar. Cheering on others’ businesses, relationships, and successes does not impede on any of our own accomplishments; it highlights them. They understand there is zero reason not to encourage, help, or support others. Having a strong and successful network is a pretty smart move–guilty by association, right?–so confident women do all they can to help their girls become stronger. High fives all ’round.
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