As a life coach, my job is to help people improve. I’ve seen a lot of clients throughout the years – and while every single one of my clients have found success in their goals – I’ve noticed that for some, improvement is easier than others. Which is why I decided to create a list of things emotionally resilient people do differently. Read below and see if you are considered emotionally resilient:
They DON’T hang their future on bad days
If things aren’t going their way, they don’t throw their hands up in the air and decide that from here on out – nothing is EVER going to go their way again. Dramaaaaa. Instead, they chalk it up to a rut or an isolated event of crappiness. They know that things will turn around as soon as they can adjust their sour attitude. In fact, emotionally resilient people bank on it. They believe that over the course of their life, the net result will be positive. So whatever with these down slopes – it’ll pass.
They DO have an internal locus of control
A locus of control is the amount of perceived control we have over our circumstances. If your locus of control is internal, that means you believe you have the power to influence your environment – for the good or the bad. If you have an external locus of control, that means you believe your environment has more control over your circumstances than you do. There are positives to either one, but generally having an internal locus of control is better for our emotional health.
Humans have a need to feel some control over their lives. We need to have reassurance that our efforts will pay off in the end. Emotionally resilient people take responsibility for their actions (I failed a test because I didn’t study hard – not because the teacher graded poorly), as well as take credit when things go their way (he loves me because I am a good person – not because he was lonely and needed companionship). These girls don’t waste their time trying to blame others – they’ve got everything they need all by themselves.
They DON’T ruminate, and instead choose to forgive
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