As a female, it’s easy to feel trapped in a never-ending cycle of self loathing. And while I have not been immune to this heavy pressure, I’ve also tapped into female empowerment and have learned how fantastic it is to be a woman. I love having women as my peers and as my inspiration. In fact, I even built a life coaching business all about women helping other women.

So today’s post is all about female empowerment and how to feel better about yourself as a woman. I’m going to offer some reframes, some fun insights, and hopefully provide you with a little pep in your step over your birth or chosen gender. It’s good to be a woman!

 

Perseverance

The odds have always been against us, and are still against us. But nevertheless, we persist (love you, Lizzie!).

Think about that for a second, though. Your entire life you have been pushing a boulder up a hill, for really no reason at all. In elementary school boys were praised for being good at math, while you were scoring just as high. In middle school, you had restricted clothing choices because apparently little boys thought shoulders were sexual. In high school, you were told to select a major – but also encouraged to be open, because “you might not work your whole life.” And as young adults, you were confronted with more sexism than in the previous 15 years combined.

Everything is harder for us, because we are constantly pushing for more. Things that weren’t available to us 50 years ago are available to us now, because we keep fighting. While I don’t believe this world is fair and I know we have so much more work to do, it’s nice to bask in our victories and know they weren’t handed to us.

Everything you have accomplished, you’ve done with more resistance. Never forget that. Because that’s what true female empowerment is. Use that knowledge to fuel your next big move, and be proud of the fact that with every step you take, you’re getting stronger and stronger. And eventually, it’s going to be a cake walk to feel better about yourself.

   

Overthinking and Overanalyzing

I am routinely told that women overthink. (Aren’t you?)

But it recently dawned on me that overthinking is a superpower.

Consider this – we have the ability to think about a hundred different scenarios for a specific instance. We can think about things from so many different angles and perspectives. Sure, it gets overwhelming – but it’s also kind of magical.

 

Everything we conjure on our mind is an actual possibility, leaving us excited, prepared, and stimulated for what’s next.

 

Talk about female empowerment, right?!

Of course overthinking and overanalyzing can take a dark turn if we latch onto the worst case scenario our brain hatches (one of my favorite quotes is ‘worrying means you suffer twice’) – but if we train our brain to ask ourselves, “what if it works out?” instead of “what if it doesn’t?” – we could be living in an optimistic abundance thanks to our active minds.

Point is, just because we can imagine others’ perspectives (it’s called empathy, guys), think far ahead, and understand the implications of certain decisions, does not mean we are anxious or crazy. It means we are thoughtful, intelligent, compassionate, and responsible.

And THAT is how you start to feel better about yourself.