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How to Move on After Being Cheated On

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Cheating: it’s the ultimate betrayal. The person you thought would protect you, defend you, and comfort you has now put you through the worst kind of pain – and you have to live with it. If you’re looking for an article that’s going to help you get over being cheated on while staying in the relationship – I would “exit” out of this article now. I am NOT going to spend the next few minutes convincing you to stay in a relationship that has caused this kind of pain. I think you deserve better. If you’re ready to move past it, then continue on. This is how to move on after being cheated on.

 

This Isn’t About the Other Person

Before we dive into anything else – which we will – spend as much time as you need to release anger towards the other person in this debacle. No matter who he or she is – they are the wrong target for your anger.

And that sucks, because they are the EASIEST scapegoat. More than likely you don’t know them very well (and if you do – yikes – that’s even worse?) and aren’t familiar with the context of their situation. Which means it’s REALLY easy to fill in the gaps yourself and create a scenario where your significant other is the presumed “innocent” party, and the other party instigated the entire thing.

But that’s not going to help you in this situation. The longer you hold onto that anger, the longer it’s going to take to realize who the real offender is. You will agonize over the wrong issues, and extend your hurt unnecessarily over time. Because at some point, you’re going to realize that this person isn’t your business. They aren’t the reason you feel terrible right now. And their trajectory doesn’t really affect your life. They can go on and have karma eat them alive later on, or they can go on living a perfectly happy life. Neither scenario affects how you are going to move forward.

So instead, assume they are completely innocent in this situation. Assume they didn’t know your significant other was betraying you. Assume they thought this was fair game (because , and this is harsh, but that’s usually the case). That way you can focus on what really matters in order to properly heal in a reasonable amount of time.

 

Forgive Yourself Immediately

Once we have zeroed in on the true offender in this situation, it gets real gnarly real fast.

And for a lot of us, the next immediate response is to blame ourselves. Now, know that a lot of us are going to move through the different stages of grief out of order and for different lengths of time – but this note is so important that I want to cover it early.

You are not to blame for a significant other callously violating the terms of your relationship. It’s easy to reflect back on everything you did wrong (and I’m sure there are some greatest hits!), but cheating is never the correct answer to retaliate against bad behavior. You simply do not have the power to make someone with agency do something against their will. Therefore, you cannot be held responsible for their actions. No matter WHAT went down in the relationship, this act does not need to be forgiven.

If your significant other was thinking about your feelings, they would have summoned the maturity to break it off with you before embarrassing you in such a demeaning way. I don’t know about you, but I’ve been in this position many times before. I’ve wanted to walk away from a perfectly good relationship because I simply wasn’t feeling it like I should have anymore. And every time I probably (definitely) botched it. But at least I can hold my head up high and say that the second I realized I was not in love with my significant other(s) anymore (and maybe even felt a twinge for somebody else) – I called it off. And if my idiotic 17, 20, and 23 year old self can manage to pull that off – so can they.

And if you’re sitting here thinking “Well what does she know, she only DUMPED people before, not the other way around” LOLOLOL I wish girlfriend. My 21 and 24 year old self beg to differ.

 

Try To Be Sad Instead of Angry

This is a toughie.

While I’m all about getting angry (I am “pro” almost every emotion except for guilt and jealousy!) – I think sadness is going to do you a lot more favors.

Yes, you are pissed at how things went down. Yes, you are furious that a person you like/love did this to you. Of course, you are livid that the relationship can never go back to what it was, no matter how hard either of you try.

But in reality, you’re sad. You’re really, really, really, really, REALLY sad.

Getting dumped is bad enough, but you have to deal with the shame, embarrassment, and confusion of being cheated on. I know. It’s not fair. And it’s so easy to let yourself fall into anger because the situation is worthy of it. But instead, try to lean into the blue. Soak yourself in tears and mourn the relationship you wanted longingly to work. Processing your sadness is what will help you move forward. Anger will only keep you here for longer.

If you think about it – anger and excitement have almost identical physical sensations. Your heart rate excels, you get a tingly feeling, sometimes your stomach flutters, and your face gets hot. It’s easy for your body to actually *like* being in that state – and it’s probably a lot more comfortable than feeling sad. So you’ll stay there for awhile. You can function as an angry person. We see them every day! The people who scream at servers and cuss at the the weather and lose their shit when their team loses. They got angry about something and just…stayed that way.

Is that what you want?

No. So instead, just be sad for a bit. It’s normal to have periods of sadness. However -if you are feeling genuine signs of depression (loss of appetite, disinterest in activities you found entertaining before, weight change, sleep change, feelings of hopelessness, fear of the future) for a sustained period of time, talk to a psychiatrist immediately. I do not want anyone confusing sadness (situational) with depression (chemical).

But good old fashion sadness is nothing to be ashamed of. Live in it for a bit until you’re ready to release it.

 

Focus on Empowerment

At some point, you’re going to get sick of feeling sorry for yourself.

The “woe is me, how could they do this, what a bastard” phase is going to get old. Your friends will fein concerned head-nods, you’ll run out of new phrases to describe the heartache, and while you might still continue to fixate on what happened – it’s not going to cause the same stomach-drop sensation it used to.

My strongest advice is to listen to your frustration. In fact, let it guide you to a new place of empowerment.

This is when things get fun. This is when you get to use your old friend anger and mesh her up with some feminism!

Here’s what cheating empowerment affirmations sounds like:

“I am better than this.”
“I deserve someone who will treat me with respect.”
“I am above this drama”
“This was just an obstacle on my way to better things.”
“I will find a love that will never cause me doubt again.”
“I do not need anyone to make me happy – I am in charge of my own happiness.”
“I am stronger than I believe.”
“This experience will help me relate to others in the future.”
“I am stronger because of this.”
“I am grateful they showed their true colors earlier rather than later.”
“I will attract more positivity now that I know what I want and what I do not want”
“This experience taught me so many lessons I will carry with me.”
“I lived through it once, and I never will have to live through it again.”
“Thank you, NEXT.”

And there are plenty more where they came from!

This is where you can reflect back on the hurt you endured and your decision to not let it stop you from finding a better life. You chose to look at this situation and say, “not for me.”

This isn’t to judge anyone who stays in a relationship where cheating occurred. Every situation is different and people have their reasons. There is strength in forgiveness just as there is strength in moving forward. This is just to say that you know yourself well enough to trust that cheating doesn’t fly with you. Find power in it. 

 

Gratitude Will Help

I know, I know.

Don’t feel pressure to get to this point right at this exact moment – but maybe clock it for later. But I  want to elaborate on this point real fast so you can use it to your advantage when you’re ready.

While you do not have to pull an Ariana Grande and be super thankful for your ex, you can at least be grateful that you are not going to spend the rest of your life with someone you cannot trust. You are so lucky (don’t hit me) that this person showed who they were at this point in time instead of later on. And whether your significant other cheated after five months of dating or five years of marriage – you are still better off for knowing now than finding out next week, next month, or next year.

Be grateful that they cheated on you during a time when you can handle it. Because you reading this article right now shows that you CAN handle it. You are brave enough to keep reading through the pain. You are courageous enough to research help during this shit time so you can move on. And you are smart enough to know that you are better off by yourself than with someone who could dare to cheat on you.

 

Reflect and Learn

Once you’ve moved past the anger, you’re on your way out of the sadness, and you’ve found some empowerment through this process – it’s time for some lesson-learning.

Ideally you’ve already released yourself from any blame or guilt. If you haven’t – please go back and spend some time focusing on this. In fact, it might be in your best interest to work with a professional coach through these issues. Guilt and blame simply do not have a place in the healing process and will impede your ability to clearly reflect and learn from this experience.

I find that learning something through every tough life experience expands my ability to feel grateful and proud of the obstacles I faced. Once I’m able to identify exactly what I would change and what I would keep the same – I’m able to release any fear that this will happen to me again.

The goal is to figure out exactly what went wrong, and prevent it from happening again in the future. These lessons will not only help you avoid mistakes again, but they will also steer you closer to a relationship or life experience that’s much healthier for you.

For example, if your significant other was jealous during the relationship – always suspicious of you and other men/women, requiring constant check-ins when you were apart, or always accusing you of being unfaithful – that’s something to note. Scratch that – that’s something to circle in red ink. You know now not to even touch relationships that are mired with jealousy. But maybe it was the opposite – perhaps you felt suspicious of your ex and someone else – and you turned out to be right. Now you know to trust your gut and to listen to yourself.

The more lessons you can extract that DO NOT place blame, the better. Again, it might be worth working with a coach on these issues because they can be complicated and hard to tease out.

All right, girl. I know you’re *in it* right now – but you’re going to pull through. If you need more help recovering from the breakup – look no further. We have plenty of breakup articles ready to assist you in your healing process. And if you need some extra, tailored help – you know where to find us.

Good luck! 

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10 Things To Do When You’re Stressed Out

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I’m going to level with you – I’ve been really stressed out lately.

In fact, I’ve been stressed out all year. The tailend of 2018 and the bulk of 2019 has not been smooth sailin’ to the Rogers-Solomon household, but we are hanging in there. Don’t get me wrong – we’ve had plenty of victories (which is what a gratitude mindset likes to shout at me daily), but that doesn’t alleviate the higher level of stress that’s been pouring into our lives.

Which basically means this entire year, I’ve been stressed out while also trying to help my clients who are stressed the F out. I love my job, but I also have to WATCH IT because I can’t offer what I don’t have myself. It’s a slippery slope if I don’t take care of myself. So, I’ve compiled my “list of things to do when you’re stressed out” – and while some days they work better than others, I think I’ve managed to survive up until this point fairly well because of it. And I hope you do, too.

1. Exercise

Yep. It’s probably the dead last thing you want to do right now, which is why it’s the first thing on my list.

There is something sublimely terrible and euphoric about exercise. Your mind has to shut off to focus on making your body do whatever you want it to do – and your heart pumps endorphins all throughout to usher you into a completely different hormonal state. Distraction + transformation. And afterwards, even if you still feel stressed out or annoyed or frustrated or whatever other lovely feeling has arrived at your door today – you’ve renewed your energy to be able to deal with it.

Exercise not only makes you feel accomplished for the day (“I might be a stress potato but at least I got off my butt”) but it actually REDUCES stress altogether.  I mean if that’s not an obvious solution, I don’t know what is.

So whenever you are feeling particularly stressed out – go for a walk. Get on that bike. Crush that reformer. I don’t care if you’re a dancing-tabata-barre-bootcamp-yogi, just do whatever your body likes. I can’t run to save my life (I think my body still believes it’s the 1200s and if I’m running, I’m running from a damn bear so I better SAVE. EVERY. CALORIE. FOR. SURVIVAL.)  which means I’ve found alternative ways to get endorphins while not turning into a blimp. Exercise is not one size fits all, so just do whatever sounds like fun!

2. Go to Bed Early

Another womp, womp.

Stress reduces your ability/desire to sleep. It wires your brain into thinking you need to stay alert and awake to solve whatever crisis is coming atchya – but in reality, you need to constantly reboot.

I cannot promise that whatever stressor you’re experiencing at this current moment is going to melt away from sleep – but I can guarantee you that if you do NOT sleep, it’s only going to get worse. So do your damnest to get those 7, 8, or even 9 hours every night. Being cranky and stressed = you’re a piece of poop to be around, which is going to make your life worse. So for your own sake, and for the people around you’s sake – please go to bed.

3. Listen to a Podcast

There’s something about listening to confident women talk about real issues that makes me believe I’m going to be just fine.

Whenever I’m feeling stressed, I like to turn to the soothing voice of Cheryl Strayed in Dear Sugars or Elizabeth Gilbert’s Magic Lessons. When I’m feeling frustrated with my business, I’ll skim through How I Built This and listen to any female founder’s story. If I’ve got more time on my hands, then I switch gears to an audiobook and listen to Brene Brown’s quick wit. And when I really need the hail Mary to get me out of any stressful day – I call on her majesty the Queen, Oprah in Super Soul Sunday.

But those are just some of my favorites. Take some time to explore the magical women who have dared to create podcasts meant to help us get through our day. You’ll be thanking yourself later.

4. Watch Something Nostalgic

Shut off that age old advice that movies and TV are bad for you. Movies and TV can be absolutely FANTASTIC for you if you’re watching the right stuff at the right time.

If you’re stressed out and really needing to unplug, might I suggest watching something that takes you out of the moment and into a state of happiness. Typically nostalgia does that for me – which is like old favorites like When Harry Met Sally, The Sandlot, and Sabrina do it for me. I float back to a simpler time, and gain so much perspective that after an hour and a half – I feel like I can overcome whatever is in my way.

I, however, do NOT recommend watching anything anxiety-provoking. Turn the crime series and murder mysteries off, ma’am. You’re already in stress overdrive and don’t need to sleep with one eye open waiting to become a barely-possible statistic. If you’re struggling to think of any – switch on F.R.I.E.N.D.S. That’ll do the trick.

5. Meditate

The ultimate equilibrium equalizer.

If you don’t know how to meditate, or don’t think it’s your thing – I encourage you to download a meditation app to get started. Headspace, Calm, and and YogaGlo are just a few. The entire gist is to shut off your mind and focus on one thing – or nothing at all. Ideally you will recalibrate your mind – and ideally alleviate excess stress getting in your way.

6. Clean

That’s right, put your anxiety to some use!

Whenever you are super stressed out – it’s usually due to some perceived lack of control. Maybe you don’t have enough control over your time to get everything you need to get done, or maybe you don’t have control over outside obstacles that could affect your day to day (weather – looking at you!).

I find that exerting control over something tends to ease my frustration and tricks my brain into thinking I have more power than I actually do. And what better way to exert control than to clean up your place? Not only will it give you the satisfaction of actually doing something productive, but it will also get rid of any clutter that could be triggering anxiety. Many people report feeling overwhelmed and discombobulated in an untidy space – so having a dirty space could actually be one of the root causes of your stress. Two birds, one stone!

7. Talk to Someone

There is nothing worse than being mega stressed out and trying to explain it to someone else who is not only NOT stressed out at all but also just…doesn’t get it.

Yeah, that sucks.

So invest in yourself. Find a life coach (I hear Blush is pretty great) or a therapist who is trained to help manage your stress levels. The simple act of unloading emotionally onto someone else can feel so incredible – and you may accidentally abuse that privilege with friends and family. So instead, talk to a professional who will not only listen to your concerns, but they’ll also provide tailored feedback to help you find balance again, and alleviate stress in the future. The great thing about Blush is that everything is conducted online and sessions are affordable – so the process itself won’t stress you out even further!

8. Play with a Pet

If an animal can’t help you de-stress, then it’s hopeless.

Kidding! Kind of?

If you are lucky enough to have a pet (say hi to @baloo_y_queso whenever you’d like), you already know the power these little critters have at taking you out of the moment and into pure exhilaration. Your cat doesn’t care how much money you have. Your dog doesn’t care if you’ve gained 10 pounds. Animals don’t care because they are smarter than us! They know this shit doesn’t matter!

So when you need to take a break from humans (don’t we all) – go hang out with a pet. If you don’t have a pet, visit a local shelter. I have no doubt a lot of furbabies would be more than happy to spend some time with your stress-ball ass.

9. Journal

If you don’t wanna talk it out, then at least write it out.

There’s something really incredible about being able to articulate exactly what is stressing us out – and then spitting it out onto paper. It’s like we’re releasing all of the icky feelings and making it a journal’s problem, and not ours. This is also known as externalizing the problem – which can be so helpful during times of acute stress.

So whip out that old diary and get to work! Don’t worry about if you’re making sense or not – chances are, no one will ever read it. And if you actually want someone to read it – may I suggest journaling to a Blush life coach? They’ll actually respond with real advice. Just sayin’.

10. Take a Shower

Maybe it’s just me, but when I’m really stressed, taking a shower with some intense hot water while blaring music really does it for me.

I’m not sure if it’s the music that clears my head and distracts my worry, or if I metaphorically feel like I’m cleansing myself of stress, or if the steam is opening up my pores and my stress is actually seeping out – but something tends to work during those times. Typically my showers are for utility only – I am in and out simply because I don’t want to embarrass myself at a public outing. But for stressful days – I tend to really enjoy myself in that shower. Hell, I’ll even exfoliate!

So do yourself a favor and jump in the shower (or the tub!) if you need to de-stress. You may feel the magic, too.

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How to Overcome Imposter Syndrome

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If you haven’t heard the term “Imposter Syndrome” before, either you’ve managed to escape its grip, or you didn’t have the term to describe the crippling self-doubt that comes with putting yourself out there. So, before we discuss how to overcome Imposter Syndrome – let’s define it.

Imposter Syndrome: The idea that you’re a “fraud” amongst professionals. You haven’t earned the success you’re achieving, or you never will experience any success because you don’t know what you’re doing – and soon enough – everyone else will find that out, too.

 

I can sense a lot of you are reluctantly nodding your head in familiarity. So let’s all take a cleansing deep breath and know that we are in this together!

In for 1…2…3…4. HOLD HOLD HOLD HOLD DO NOT LET GO OF YOUR BREATH. Out for 1…2…3…4! 

That felt good, yes?

Now that our mind is clear and our bodies are relaxed, let’s talk about how we can overcome Imposter Syndrome (or booger syndrome as I sometimes call it).

 

Everyone Has it!

 

For reals, mostly everyone has experienced Imposter Syndrome. And if you’ve met someone who has claimed they haven’t (*eye roll*) – I would be scootin’ my way along because they cannot be trusted. Even if you don’t *totally* relate to it (which begs the question why you’re reading this?), you’ve probably brushed past it before. If you’ve ever said something to the tune of:

“Maybe before I do more prep work”
“I would, but I’m not qualified.”
“They are better, so I’ll let them go for it.”
“I’m not _____ enough”

…then you’ve had Imposter Syndrome. Which means EVERYONE has it. Which means if EVERYONE has it, then NOBODY feels confident at all times that they know what they are doing. And that alone should eliminate part your of fear. I think April Ludgate (fictional character, I know) said it best.

“I’m gonna tell you a secret about everyone else’s job: No one knows what they’re doing. Deep down, everyone is just faking it until they figure it out. And you will too, because you are awesome.”

 

Some people are simply better at masking their self-doubt and making it SEEM like they know what they’re doing. Maybe you struggle with this – and that’s ok. It’s a lovely thing to be vulnerable. However, when you let your self-doubt take you out of the game completely, that’s when there is an issue. Continue to put yourself out there knowing everyone else is just as afraid as you are. The more you do it, the less it will scare you.

Perfect Shouldn’t Be the Goal

 

If perfect is the goal for your next endeavor – you need to rethink all of this anyway.

My favorite phrase ever, “become friends with ‘good enough'” – or better known as “done is better than perfect” – comes to mind right about now. One of the main reason Imposter Syndrome perks up right around the time you start actually trying is because you are focusing on the idea of *perfection* and how it leaves little to no room for human error.

Which…is a problem. Because we’re humans. 

If every goal, job, opportunity, or expression we went for needed to be perfect, then we’d all be better off skipping and staying in bed. Which is EXACTLY what Imposter Syndrome wants you to do. Being perfect at whatever comes next in your life should never, ever be the goal – because it’s impossible. Instead, the goal should be the experience of it all. If you enter into situations focusing on the actual experience of the process, and not the end result – things become a hell of a lot easier. And more fun. And worthwhile.

And the hilarious part about all of this, is when you focus on the actual process of a job/task/opportunity, you end up getting better at it naturally. Without the pressure, fear, and anxiety over performing perfectly, you’re able to zen out in flow. You allow yourself to creatively explore whatever is in front of you and improve on it at your own pace. And you actually have the space you need to craft your talent! So don’t focus on the endgame. That’s Imposter Syndrome’s best case scenario. Instead focus on the process. You’ll be so much happier.

 

There’s Room For You (And Her!)

 

Another common mistake I see is assuming that there is a quota for talent. Or better known as operating with a “scarcity mindset” as opposed to an abundance mindset.”

While you might be wanting to enter into a contest of some sort that only divvies out first prize (you got me there) – typically there is more than enough space in this world/career/niche for more than one person. And each new person brings something different to the table, for a different audience. And while you might be gunning to be the best (see above!) – the “best” is a subjective measure for the most part.

Like, for instance, imagine Beyoncé and Audioslave going head to head for being “the best” at music.

I guarantee you so many people didn’t skip a beat and said DO NOT COME FOR MY QUEEN while others were ready to defend their timeless rock band at all costs.

The point is – the best doesn’t even freaking matter because there’s barely a way to measure it – and each has a unique, enthusiastic, and loyal fanbase. There is room for both. And there’s also room for Drake, Taylor Swift, Lil NasX, and Lizzo (!!! what would we do without Lizzo !!!). Plus the thousands of other artists who’ve had giant successes celebrating their talents.

And no matter WHAT niche you’re striving for, there’s room for you, too.

So throw away that scarcity mentality. That philosophy that’s telling you there are only so many spots available – and they will only go to the best and brightest. That’s more than enough negative energy to make anyone want to turn around and give up forever. Instead, adopt an abundance mentality. Not only is there enough space for you, but there’s enough space for her, too. So you go do your thing, and support her while she does hers!

 

Is the Alternative Seriously Worth it?

 

So let’s pretend that your Imposter Syndrome wins. You throw in the towel because you decide you aren’t good enough and eVeRyOnE else is going to find out you sUcK.

Now what? What’s your fallback?

The only logical answer would be to pursue something that you barely care about so you don’t suffer from Imposter Syndrome. And that sounds superbly shitty. So is that really worth it? Is the fear of other people thinking *hmm, maybe she doesn’t know exactly what she’s doing* enough to deter you from living a life of boredom?

I really hope not. You deserve so much more than the debilitating fear of others noticing flaws in your work. And you deserve so much more than assigning yourself away to a life of little challenge or enjoyment. So, please, for your own sake, do not let Imposter Syndrome fool you into sacrificing your creativity or enthusiasm for work. Again, try your best to focus on the process and not the peanut gallery – and you will be so much happier.

 

Nobody Cares

 

This is the real kicker, right here.

As we found out earlier, most people suffer from Imposter Syndrome to some extent. So, that means we are all pretty self-involved and concerned that other people are going to notice how crappy we are and our severe shame will explode onto everything we touch. Which means that barely any of us have the bandwidth to focus on…….you guessed it…….YOU.

That’s right! The silver-lining here is that we are all so anxiously distracted by the fear of our own flaws that we actually have undermined any real consequences of Imposter Syndrome. None of us notice each other.

lololol it’s kind of funny right?

OK FINE it’s sad – sure – but that’s also why the phrase “you are your own worst critic” rings true. It’s also why you are nowhere NEAR as hard on your friends as you are on yourself. Think about it! You would NEVER look at your friend and think, “Ha-ha! Wonder when everyone is going to find our she doesn’t know what she’s doing.” No way. So why would you say that about yourself?

I really don’t know but it’s about time you stop.

People have enough going on with their own lives to really pay attention that closely to yours. Nobody. Cares. So go out there and fuck some shit up! Chances are, no one will blink an eye and you will go on to learn and THRIVE.

I truly hope all of these tidbits arm you in your battle against Imposter Syndrome. But of course, one size does not fit all. Which is why we offer personalized life coaching at a fraction of the cost so you can get the tailored solutions you need to move forward.

Come join us. xo

The 10 Best Self Help Books For Women You Should Read

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If you’re feeling stuck, it might be time to start reading. These are the best self-help books for women cover varying topics and can really open your mind up to new solutions. Some have an obvious niche, and others are meant for everyone to partake. We recommend these book consistently to our clients, and hope you enjoy them as well.

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Braving the Wilderness

“A timely and important new audiobook that challenges everything we think we know about cultivating true belonging in our communities, organizations, and culture, from the number one best-selling author of Rising Strong, Daring Greatly, and The Gifts of Imperfection.”

Attached

 

“Is there a science to love? In this groundbreaking audiobook, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory – the most advanced relationship science in existence today – can help us find and sustain love.”

You Are a Badass at Making Money

 

You Are a Badass at Making Money will launch you past the fears and stumbling blocks that have kept financial success beyond your reach. Drawing on her own transformation – over just a few years – from a woman living in a converted garage with tumbleweeds blowing through her bank account to a woman who travels the world in style, Jen Sincero channels the inimitable sass and practicality that made You Are a Badass an indomitable best seller.”

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck

 

“In this generation-defining self-help guide, a superstar blogger cuts through the crap to show us how to stop trying to be positive all the time so that we can truly become better, happier people.”

Please Understand Me II

 

“For the past twenty years Keirsey has continued to investigate personality differences — to refine his theory of the four temperaments and to define the facets of character that distinguish one from another. His findings form the basis of Please Understand Me II, an updated and greatly expanded edition of the book, far more comprehensive and coherent than the original, and yet with much of the same easy accessibility.”

Conquering Your Quarter Life Crisis

 

Umm OF COURSE we were going to include our book. Le duh.

“This book is a no-nonsense approach to getting over your quarter life crisis and entering into adulthood like a boss. Learn about the symptoms of the quarter life crisis and how to combat them as well as tackling your career distress, relationship troubles, breakup woes, friendship struggles, and owning your singlehood while everyone else is getting engaged. This book won’t let you waste one more second feeling sorry for yourself. It’s time to stop feeling stuck and take action.”

Eat, Pray, Love

 

“This beautifully written, heartfelt memoir touched a nerve among both readers and reviewers. Elizabeth Gilbert tells how she made the difficult choice to leave behind all the trappings of modern American success (marriage, house in the country, career) and find, instead, what she truly wanted from life.”

Quiet

 

“At least one-third of the people we know are introverts. They are the ones who prefer listening to speaking, reading to partying; who innovate and create but dislike self-promotion; who favor working on their own over brainstorming in teams. Although they are often labeled “quiet,” it is to introverts that we owe many of the great contributions to society–from van Gogh’s sunflowers to the invention of the personal computer.”

The Defining Decade

 

“Our “30-is-the-new-20″ culture tells us that the twentysomething years don’t matter. Some say they are an extended adolescence. Others call them an emerging adulthood. But 30 is not the new 20. In this enlightening book, Dr. Meg Jay reveals how many twentysomethings have been caught in a swirl of hype and misinformation that has trivialized what are actually the most defining years of adulthood.”

Mindset: The Psychology of Success

 

“After decades of research, world-renowned Stanford University psychologist Carol S. Dweck, PhD, discovered a simple but groundbreaking idea: the power of mind-set. In this brilliant book, she shows how success in school, work, sports, the arts, and almost every area of human endeavor can be dramatically influenced by how we think about our talents and abilities.”

Happy Reading!

 

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101 Positive Affirmations To Help You Slay The Day

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Going through a rough patch? No matter how many pep talks we give ourselves, sometimes it’s easier to have some ready-to-go positive affirmations to get us through a difficult day. To be sure we can cover any topic you happen to be struggling with at the moment, we have put together 101 affirmations that cover 10 different categories to boost your confidence!

We have affirmations for stress, female empowerment, self love, work and career, body image, healing, money and wealth, breakups, relationship and dating, and boundaries. 

Feel to say these affirmations as your daily routine, or only when you need a boost.

Table Of Contents:

 

Positive Affirmations for Stress

 

1. This too shall pass and I can withstand this.

 

Positive affirmations for stress: This too shall pass and I can stand this.

You’ve been through shit before and lived. You will live, and you will grow.

2. I accept the things I cannot change.

 

Positive affirmations for stress: I accept the things I cannot change.

Focusing on what you *cannot* change is a sure-fire way to welcome anxiety into your home. Focus on what you can change, and you’ll be much happier.

3. I will not let my happiness depend on things being perfect.

 

Positive affirmations for stress: I will not let my happiness depend on things being perfect.

Done is better than perfect. Always and forever.

4. I gently release all my worries, anxieties and fears.

 

Positive affirmations for stress: I gently release all my worries, anxieties and fears.

Do not cling to negativity. Flip it on its head and focus on the positives. What have you learned today?

5. I don’t have to fix everything right now. I can be still and ride the wave of life.

 

Positive affirmations for stress: I don't have to fix everything right now. I can be still and ride the wave of life.

No one has a perfect life. But those who are happy are those who can see the beauty within the disaster.

6. I am stronger than my struggles.

 

Positive affirmations for stress: I am stronger than my struggles

Girl – you can do this. A break is coming your way. If you can keep pushing, you will be rewarded.

7. I am doing the best I can.

 

Positive affirmations for stress: I am doing the best I can.

That’s all any of us can ask for. Be grateful for your efforts.

8. When anxiety visits me, I can breathe it away.

 

Positive affirmations for stress: When anxiety visits me, I can breathe it away.

These feelings do not live inside of you, they’re just visiting. Show them the door and move on with your day.

9. Worrying cannot change my circumstances.

 

Positive affirmations for stress: Worrying cannot change my circumstances.

You know what they say – worrying is a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but takes you nowhere!

11. I live in a universe where I am loved and supported.

 

Positive affirmations for stress: I live in a universe where I am loved and supported.

You are not alone.

 

Positive Affirmations for Feminists

 

12. I believe in the woman I am becoming.

 

Positive affirmations for feminists: I believe in the woman I am becoming.

Growth doesn’t happen overnight – but every day you are inching closer and closer to the woman you always knew you could be.

13. I love who I am because I fought hard to become her.

 

Positive affirmations for feminists: I love who I am because I fought hard to become her.

You put blood, sweat, and tears into who you are today. Honor her.

14. I refuse to rely on your sword to save me because I carry my own.

 

Positive affirmations for feminists: I refuse to rely on your sword to save me because I carry my own.

You are strong and resilient just as you are. You do not need rescuing from anyone.

15. I am not afraid of being the full package.

 

Positive affirmations for feminists: I am not afraid of being the full package.

Do not shy away from being everything this universe deserves. Some qualities you were born with, and some you developed yourself.

16. A successful woman is one who can build a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at her.

 

Positive affirmations for feminists: A successful woman is one who can build a firm foundation with the bricks that others throw at her.

The world doesn’t make it easy on women. But that’s why we were made to be fierce.

17. Careers have no gender.

 

Positive affirmations for feminists: Careers have no gender.

None. You have permission to go after any job title in any field that interests you.

18. Her success is not my failure. Empowered women empower women.

 

Positive affirmations for feminists: Her success is not my failure. Empowered women empower women.

There is no quota for success amongst women. When one of us succeeds, all of us succeed.

19. I am a strong woman. I don’t have attitude, I have standards and boundaries.

 

Positive affirmations for feminists: I am a strong woman. I don't have attitude, I have standards and boundaries.

You’re not a bitch, you’re a badass.

20. I will not apologize for being a powerful fucking woman.

 

Positive affirmations for feminists: I will not apologize for being a powerful fucking woman.

There’s absolutely nothing to be sorry for. Those who are intimidated by you have their own self-work to focus on. That’s not your problem.

21. I am powerful, beautiful, radiant, and brave.

 

Positive affirmations for feminists: I am powerful, beautiful, radiant, and brave.

…and talented, kind, intelligent, and the list goes on.

 

Positive Affirmations for Self Love

 

22. I accept myself for who I am today.

 

Positive affirmations for self love: I accept myself for who I am today.

You will also accept yourself for who you were yesterday and who you will be tomorrow.

23. You owe yourself the love that you freely give other people.

 

Positive affirmations for self love: You owe yourself the love that you freely give other people.

You effortlessly let love spill out to friends and family – allow some of the love to be shared internally. You deserve it.

24. I approve of myself and love myself deeply and completely.

 

Positive affirmations for self love: I approve of myself and love myself deeply and completely.

We seek out approval from others too often, and this ends when we approve of ourselves first.

25. I am courageous and I stand up for myself.

 

Positive affirmations for self love: I am courageous and I stand up for myself.

You MUST have your own back in this life. We cannot heavily depend on others having it for us.

26. I will not compare myself to strangers on the Internet.

 

Positive affirmations for self love: I will not compare myself to strangers on the Internet.

Internet social media is not reality. You, however, are real. Focus on yourself and ignore the white noise trying to break you.

27. I am superior to negative thoughts and actions.

 

Positive affirmations for self love: I am superior to negative thoughts and actions.

You are in control of your mind. You have the power to push out any negative thoughts or actions that do not serve you or your goals.

28. I do not wait for others to give me permission to do what I love.

 

Positive affirmations for self love: I do not wait for others to give me permission to do what I love.

Never have, and you never will. Chase after what sets your soul on fire at every chance you get.

29. I am worthy of my own love.

 

Positive affirmations for self love: I am worthy of my own love.

You are worthy of love just because you exist. Loving yourself does not need to be earned – it is an automatic, fundamental right.

30. I needed a hero, so that’s what I became.

 

Positive affirmations for self love: I needed a hero, so that's what I became.

You have everything you need in order to be happy and successful in life.

31. I choose to stop apologizing for being me.

 

Positive affirmations for self love: I choose to stop apologizing for being me.

Apologies are for accidents, and you are not an accident.

 

Positive Affirmations for Work

 

32. I am proud of the hard work I put into everything I do.

 

Positive Affirmations: I am proud of the hard work I put into everything I do.

My efforts do not go unnoticed. I am valued at every step of the way.

33. Know that you can start late, look different, be uncertain and still succeed.

 

Positive Affirmations: Know that you can start late, look different, be uncertain and still succeed.

I do not need to be perfect in order to have success. I just need to show up and do my best.

34. Life is good because I decided to make it that way.

 

Positive Affirmations: Life is good because I decided to make it that way.

I intentionally designed my life and my work in a way that would make me happy.

35. Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.

 

Positive Affirmations: Success is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.

Success isn’t defined by winning. It’s defined by perseverance.

36. Even on my worst day, I’m killing it.

 

Positive Affirmations for work: Even on my worst day, I'm killing it.

I am a goddess of strength and nothing can stop me from earning what’s mine.

37. I am stubborn with goals and flexible with methods.

 

Positive Affirmations: I am stubborn with goals and flexible with methods.

I don’t give up when things get hard – but I adapt so I can enjoy my life while I’m kicking ass.

38. It is ok for me to have everything I want.

 

Positive Affirmations for work: It is ok for me to have everything I want.

There is nothing wrong with being a woman who wants. You can be kind, generous, and also ask for things at the same time.

39. There will be haters, doubters, and non-believers, and then there will me proving them all wrong.

 

Positive Affirmations for work: There will be haters, doubters, and non-believers, and then there will me proving them all wrong.

Your job isn’t to convince everyone else that you’re worthy. Your only job is convince yourself.

40. If you don’t build your dreams, someone will hire you to build theirs.

 

Positive Affirmations for work: If you don't build your dreams, someone will hire you to build theirs.

Have the courage to chase after your dreams.

41. I am never in a rush and everything still gets done.

 

Positive Affirmations for work: I am never in a rush and everything still gets done.

You do not have to burn yourself out in order to be successful. Take breaks. Enjoy the ride. Have fun.

 

Positive Affirmations for a Healthy Body Image

 

42. Eating healthy is how I show I love my body.

 

Positive affirmations for a healthy body image: Eating healthy is how I show I love my body.

“Healthy” means many things to many people – but I know what my body loves and I provide it.

43. I give myself permission to be myself.

 

Positive affirmations for a healthy body image: I give myself permission to be myself.

I am beautiful at any size, and I don’t need to starve myself for acceptance.

44. Perfect health exists in my body.

 

Positive affirmations for a healthy body image: Perfect health exists in my body.

I wake up and breathe in air. My body takes me to magical places. I am living proof of health.

45. Food is not my enemy. I thank it for nourishing me and for giving me energy.

 

Positive affirmations for a healthy body image: Food is not my enemy. I thank it for nourishing me and for giving me energy.

I will not restrict myself from the pleasures of food.

46. I am not going to sacrifice my mental health to have the perfect body.

 

Positive affirmations for a healthy body image: I am not going to sacrifice my mental health to have the perfect body.

“Perfect” does not align with my values, and I refuse to chase an elusive standard of beauty at the expense of my mind. I am better than that.

47. I will treat my body like it belongs to someone I love.

 

Positive affirmations for a healthy body image: I will treat my body like it belongs to someone I love.

I will handle my body with love, care, affection, and gratitude.

48. I release myself from the diet mentality thoughts that are no longer serving me.

 

Positive affirmations for a healthy body image: I release myself from the diet mentality thoughts that are no longer serving me.

Diets are meant to shame my body. I will instead eat foods that are nourishing, healthy, and satisfying.

49. I am an absolute fucking babe and my weight does not define me.

 

Positive affirmations for a healthy body image: I am an absolute fucking babe and my weight does not define me.

I find myself attractive, and so should you.

50. I will listen to my body when it asks for rest. I can give my body what it needs.

 

Positive affirmations for a healthy body image: I will listen to my body when it asks for rest. I can give my body what it needs.

I do not need to push my body constantly in order to feel good. My body is allowed to relax,

51. Life is too short to spend it at war with myself. I will apologize to my body and be grateful for it from here on out.

 

Positive affirmations for a healthy body image: Life is too short to spend it at war with myself. I will apologize to my body and be grateful for it from here on out.

My body and I will instead take on the world together as a united front.

 

Positive Affirmations for Healing

 

52. Life tried to crush me, but it only succeeded in making a diamond.

 

Positive affirmations for healing: Life tried to crush me, but it only succeeded in making a diamond.

Or, as Eleanor Roosevelt would say: “A woman is like a hot tea bag. You don’t know how strong she is until you put her in hot water.”

53. This is only temporary. Nothing in life is permanent.

 

Positive affirmations for healing: This is only temporary. Nothing in life is permanent.

Anything you are going through right now will inevitably end. Life ebbs and flows naturally – and you’re just in an ebb right now.

54. I have the strength, resilience, and perseverance to overcome any challenge.

 

Positive affirmations for healing: I have the strength, resilience, and perseverance to overcome any challenge.

Girl, if you’ve survived this long with all the shit life has thrown at you – you can handle this, too.

55. I’m healing, and that terrifies them. They’ve never met a woman who can break several times and put herself back together with nothing but self love.

 

Positive affirmations for healing: I'm healing, and that terrifies them. They've never met a woman who can break several times and put herself back together with nothing but self love.

Let this sink in. You are reviving yourself off of your own energy. And you’re going to surprise everyone with your courage and resilience.

 

56. There is enough good to go around for everyone.

 

Positive affirmations for healing: There is enough good to go around for everyone.

There is no quota on healing, positive thinking, or good fortune. You can thrive while others thrive, too.

 

57. I give myself permission to take time for myself until I’m ‘me’ again.

 

Positive affirmations for healing: I give myself permission to take time for myself until I'm 'me' again.

Do not rush healing. Marinate in your own transformation.

 

58. They tried to bury me. They didn’t know I was a seed.

 

Positive affirmations for healing: They tried to bury me. They didn't know I was a seed.

A Mexican proverb tailored specifically for you. The only question is, what kind of seed are you? What will you blossom? It’s up to you.

 

59. I am becoming who I was meant to be.

 

Positive affirmations for healing: I am becoming who I was meant to be.

We all have choices in life – rise up to the occasion, or surrender. I don’t think you have it in you to surrender.

 

60.When one door closes, another one opens.

 

Positive affirmations for healing: When one door closes, another one opens.

An oldie, but goodie. Stop focusing on the locked door when there are plenty of open windows surrounding you.

 

61. When it hurts, I am allowed to sit and listen. Life is trying to teach me something.

 

Positive affirmations for healing: When it hurts, I am allowed to sit and listen. Life is trying to teach me something.

Listen carefully. Extract as many wisdom nuggets as possible. Find meaning at every stage in life.

 

Positive Affirmations for Money and Wealth

 

62. I am financially abundant.

 

Positive affirmations for money: I am financially abundant.

Just as love, kindness, opportunities, and growth is abundant, so is financial wealth.

 

63. My bank account will continue to grow and grow.

 

Positive affirmations for money: My bank account will continue to grow and grow.

You are on a mission to grow positivity in your life. Money brings you positivity – so it’s only natural your bank account will follow suit.

 

64. I am a money magnet. I always attract abundance and prosperity easily and effortlessly into my reality.

 

Positive affirmations for money: I am a money magnet. I always attract abundance and prosperity easily and effortlessly into my reality.

Wealth in every sense of the word flows towards you when you think with a growth mindset.

 

65. Money allows me to have a life that I love.

 

Positive affirmations for money: Money allows me to have a life that I love.

Money is not meant to imprison you; it’s mean to free you. Enjoy it.

 

66. I place no limits on the amount of money I can make.

 

Positive affirmations for money: I place no limits on the amount of money I can make.

Release limiting thoughts one by one. You deserve money and money deserves you.

67. I always have more than enough money to meet my needs.

 

Positive affirmations for money: I always have more than enough money to meet my needs.

Your relationship with money should never be fueled by anger or resentment. Money provides and serves – it does not diminish.

68. My spiritual and financial wealth is going to be multiplied today simply because I deserve it.

 

Positive affirmations for money: My spiritual and financial wealth is going to be multiplied today simply because I deserve it.

You are worthy of having money to provide you things and experiences you enjoy.

69. It’s safe for me to become a millionaire.

 

Positive affirmations for money: It's safe for me to become a millionaire.

Money is not dirty. It is not ugly. Money can be used to bring beautiful things to yourself, and to people and causes you love.

70. I willingly release any unhelpful thoughts about money.

 

Positive affirmations for money: I willingly release any unhelpful thoughts about money.

Cultivate positive thoughts about money. The more positivity you show it, the more attracted to you it will become.

71. Money is meant to serve me.

 

Positive affirmations for money: Money is meant to serve me.

Money is not meant to punish, restrict, or deter you from living your life. Money is meant to elevate.

 

Positive Affirmations for Breakups

 

72. You were my cup of tea, but I drink champagne now.

 

Positive affirmations for breakups: You were my cup of tea, but I drink champagne now.

Leveling up in life is usually painful. A breakup is no different. Know you are onto bigger and better things.

73. The past will stay behind if I am building a future.

 

Positive affirmations for breakups: The past will stay behind if I am building a future.

Make peace with your past while you keep your eye on the future. You have amazing things in store for you.

74. Being single is an empowered choice I choose to make.

 

Positive affirmations for breakups: You were my cup of tea, but I drink champagne now.

Your next partner will need to bring more to the table than you spending quality time alone with yourself. Until then, you are all you need.

75. Being alone is not the same as being lonely.

 

Positive affirmations for breakups: Being alone is not the same as being lonely.

Alone time is critical for reflection, processing, inner peace, strength, and resilience. Cherish it.

76.  If you aren’t happy single, you won’t be happy in a relationship. Happiness comes from within, not from men.

 

Positive affirmations for breakups: If you aren't happy single, you won't be happy in a relationship. Happiness comes from within, not from men.

“Men” is only used here because it rhymes. Substitute “men” with any person you believe is there to make you whole. You do not need anyone to complete you – you are already whole by yourself.

77. One of the most courageous decisions I will ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting my heart and soul.

 

Positive affirmations for breakups: One of the most courageous decisions I will ever make is to finally let go of what is hurting my heart and soul.

Change is scary. Have faith that anyone you are leaving in your past can no longer serve you in your future.

78. This happened for a reason.

 

Positive affirmations for breakups: This happened for a reason.

Breakups do not happen at random, there are core reasons they exist. Be grateful the universe has your back enough to lead you away from a broken relationship.

79. I am going to be in love again and it will be magnificent. 

 

Positive affirmations for breakups: I am going to be in love again and it will be magnificent.

You will attract love in your future, but not if you can’t let go of the obstacle in your way today. Let the breakup take over so you can move forward.

80. I will stop fighting for someone who is ok with losing me.

 

Positive affirmations for breakups: I will stop fighting for someone who is ok with losing me.

Choose to fight for yourself instead of for someone else.

81. I honor the love more than the loss.

 

Positive affirmations for breakups: I honor the love more than the loss.

Positivity will always be a more powerful agent for change. You are allowed to focus on the love and not on the loss.

 

Positive Affirmations for Relationships and Dating

 

82. Focus on if you like them, not if they like you.

 

My grateful heart is a magnet that attracts everything I desire.

Spending time concentrating on someone else’s feelings diminishes your own. All that matters is how you feel about someone else, not vice versa.

83. Playing games in relationships will only attract game players.

 

Playing games in relationships will only attract game players.

What you put out comes back to you. Do not be afraid to show your genuine, authentic self. You will attract that from someone else in return.

84. Relationships make life exciting, but they don’t make life exist.

 

The more I care for and love myself, the more love I will experience from others.

Relationships are a bonus in life. Without a relationship, you are still whole. Treat relationships as what they are: gifts.

85. I am worthy of an honest, sincere, and affectionate relationship.

 

I am worthy of an honest, sincere, and affectionate relationship.

If you decide to be in a relationship with someone, they should treat you just as nicely as you treat yourself.

86. I am ready to love and be loved.

 

I am ready to love and be loved.

You must show your openness for love to the world in order to receive it.

87. The more I care for and love myself, the more love I will experience from others.

 

The more I care for and love myself, the more love I will experience from others.

Incredible relationships are extensions of the relationship you already have with yourself.

88. I do not need to settle in order to be loved. 

 

I do not need to settle in order to be loved.

Hold onto your standards fiercely. Do not compromise yourself for a relationship.

89. I deserve a powerful partner because I am a powerful woman.

 

Positive affirmations for relationships: I deserve a powerful partner because I am a powerful woman.

Your next relationship will challenge you, not hold you back.

90. My soulmate will love me as much as I love myself.

 

My soulmate will love me as much as I love myself.

You will only find a caring and loving romantic relationship once you have developed a caring and loving relationship with yourself.

91. My grateful heart is a magnet that attracts everything I desire.

 

My grateful heart is a magnet that attracts everything I desire.

If love is what you desire, spread love and gratitude throughout the world.

 

Positive Affirmations for Boundary Setting

 

92. I can’t afford to take people on as full-time jobs.

 

Positive affirmations for boundaries: I can't afford to take people on as full-time jobs.

You know your limits – and when you feel as if you should be paid for the amount of energy you pour into relationships, it’s time to draw back.

93. People are not mind readers, ask for what you want.

 

Positive affirmations for boundaries: People are not mind readers, ask for what you want.

You are empowered to articulate your expectations. Do not expect people to glean what you need – you are strong enough to ask.

94. The more I love my decisions, the less I need others to love them.

 

Positive affirmations for boundaries: The more I love my decisions, the less I need others to love them.

Fall in love with your choices every single day. You will seek out less and less approval the more you own them.

95. Outgrowing people around me is ok.

 

Not every friendship is meant to last a lifetime. Be brave enough to let go relationships that no longer serve a positive purpose.

96. Invest in people who invest in you.

 

Positive affirmations for boundaries: Invest in people who invest in you.

Do not chase people who wouldn’t chase you back. Spend time and energy on those who value what you offer.

97. Don’t trade authenticity for approval.

 

Positive affirmations for boundaries: Don't trade authenticity for approval.

Surround yourself with cheerleaders, motivators, supporters, and anyone else who loves you for exactly who you are.

98. My value does not decrease based on someone’s inability to see my worth.

 

Positive affirmations for boundaries: My value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see my worth.

Work on valuing yourself instead of focusing on whether or not others value you. You are the most important critic in your life.

99. It is not wrong to love myself, take care of myself, and to make my happiness a priority. It’s necessary.

 

Positive affirmations for boundaries: It is not wrong to love myself, take care of myself, and to make my happiness a priority. It's necessary.

Embrace self-care like it’s your job. As they say – you need to put your own oxygen mask on before assisting others. You cannot give what you do not have.

100. I am the CEO of my life. I can choose to hire, promote, demote, and fire people as I please.

 

Positive affirmations for boundaries: I am the CEO of my life. I can choose to hire, promote, demote, and fire people as I please.

You do not need permission to release someone from your life or to invite new people into it. Run your life like you own the place, because you do.

101. I allow myself to say no to what does not align with my values and say yes to what does.

 

Positive affirmations for boundaries: I allow myself to say no to what does not align with my values and say yes to what does.

“No” is not a dirty word. Use it as many times as you need to in order to protect your energy. It’s either a “Fuck Yes” or it’s a “No.”

 

 

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Four Tips to Help You Feel Motivated

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Ask yourself, “Is this something that I really want?”

In life, it’s far too easy to find ourselves doing something for the wrong reasons. Perhaps because we feel the need to live up to the expectations of others, or maybe because we’ve developed a case of the “supposed’tas” (i.e., that long laundry list of things everyone is “supposed’ta” do by a certain age, or in a certain order, or in a certain way…).  You get my drift. Whatever the case may be, it’ll be worth it for you to spend some time doing some good old fashioned soul searching, to avoid waking up 50 years from now and realizing someone else has been sailing your ship. Read More