modern girl

Life is crazy. So let’s make it simpler by sharing the 10 commandments of the modern girl so you can always be prepared to slay.

1. Thou Shalt Not Be Defined by a Relationship Status.

A relationship status is not the end all be all for the modern girl. She is allowed to enjoy being single, being in relationships, being engaged, being married or even enjoy being divorced. She’s also not determined to rush to the next step, either. Marriage is a possibility, not the end all be all.  Lastly modern girls are also not limited to friendships who mirror their own phase in life. She has friends with many different relationship statuses, and it only enhances the bond.

2. Thou Shalt Say No

The modern girl no longer has time for anything and everything people ask from her. The myth of “having it all” has somehow also convinced us that we have to say “yes” to every chore, every appointment, and every position that comes our way. But the reality is, “having it all” is about prioritizing. She gets to choose what she wants in her life, how she balances it, and what she values the most. And in order to do that, she has to say no to certain things.

3. Thou Shalt Not Harbor Guilt

As much as the modern girl may really like her ability to care for others and to show empathy, she doesn’t also have to feel really, really, bad when negative things occur that are outside of her control.  She doesn’t have time for guilt.  She knows that it is an ugly emotion, one that stays far beyond it’s welcome and distracts her from her priorities. She doesn’t need to feel guilty for getting a position someone else wanted, or for prioritizing her time over other things. So, she won’t. She releases it, and moves on.

4. Thou Shalt Not Habitually Apologize

Modern girls apologize when it’s necessary, not when it’s routine. If someone bumps into us on the street, she won’t apologize for it. If someone interrupts us while we are speaking, she won’t apologize for it. And if someone hurts HER feelings, she won’t apologize for it. Apologies are necessary when SHE has done something to hurt another person. Otherwise, you probably won’t get anything from her, because it’s not her job. She will continue on as she was, and that is what should be expected.

5. Thou Shalt Sit At the Table

Sheryl Sandberg has officially asked every modern girl to ‘Sit at the Table,’ a phrase meant to encourage us to put ourselves out there in the workforce.  But, this is more than just deciding to sit at the round table discussion instead of grabbing the free chair in the corner–it’s about the modern girl speaking up for herself. Asking for the raise. Going for the promotion. Speaking her mind. Contributing her ideas. It’s time for the modern girls to see themselves as worthy, intelligent, and capable as men, even if it means putting extra energy to be recognized. The modern girl won’t accept NOT being at the table–because it’s where she belongs.

6. Thou Shalt Not Compare

As Theodore Roosevelt so gracefully put it, “comparison is the thief of joy.” The modern girl is not imprisoned by constant comparison of her figure to other bodies, her intelligence to other brains, or her accomplishments to other’s careers. She is her own entity, and she only compares herself, to herself. Other stories of ambition and success only drive her to do better. She is on her own path, and it cannot and will not be compared with another’s.

7. Thou Shalt Let Go of Toxic Relationships

The modern girl is not afraid to be the CEO of her life. She promotes, demotes, fires, and hires people as she wishes. She has high standards for her friendships and relationships, and doesn’t let other people drag her down. She can still be forgiving and caring, but she doesn’t let others walk all over her. If someone in her life takes advantage or exhausts her energy, then it’s not lost on her that it might be time for them to leave. She wants to maintain a positive, optimistic, and ambitious attitude, and sometimes it’s borderline impossible with close friends who refuse that lifestyle. But, on the flip side, she values and loves her friends who bring out the best in her, and she tries to bring out the best in them.

8. Thou Shalt Embrace Imperfections

The modern girl doesn’t have the perfect body, because nobody has the perfect body. So, she chooses to embrace her imperfections such as her odd looking toes, lack of a thigh gap, cute double chin, or frizzy hair. They make her who she is, and hell, she likes who she is. So why not like all of it? Magazines can continue to be photoshopped and friends can continue to wear smaller jean sizes, but that doesn’t affect her vision of herself. She knows she’s a gem, and that’s all that matters.

9. Thou Shalt Support Each Other

The modern girl is not threatened by other’s successes. In fact, she’s inspired by them. Successes for women in general are positive for the modern girl, because she strives and celebrates more opportunities across the board for women. She embraces achievements and awards given to other women EVEN if she does feel a twinge of jealousy, because she knows that it only helps her and her gender in the long run. So she puts her energy into supporting others, and she feels pretty fabulous about it.

10. If Thou Shalt Choose a Partner, Thou Shalt Choose a Real One.

If the modern girl does choose a partner, she makes sure that person is an actual partner. Sandberg is also a strong proponent of equal duties and responsibilities, and the modern girl accepts and runs with this proposal.  She will pick a partner who will support her, push her, love her, and challenge her. Someone who will help inside the house and outside of the house. Someone who will make compromises to support their relationship as a whole and their individual successes. Someone who doesn’t tolerate an imbalance of power in their relationship, and not because she demands it, but because they wouldn’t have it any other way.

 

Are you a modern girl trying to follow the 10 Commandments? Then you belong at Blush. Join today for your future tomorrow. 

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Kali Rogers is the Founder, Janitor, and CEO of Blush. You can stalk her on Instagram or ask her whatever you want via email. She loves the attention.
  • Corrine

    I love this. One of the best things I’ve read all year, I want to print this and frame it in my office to read everyday!

  • Jane Berlin

    That was actually really good! I’m surprised to have just read something that isn’t just the same regurgitated old shit already being said on the Internet. I think this site has just won my respect. I’ll have to browse the rest of it and see what it’s all about.

  • Purplerain734

    Love #10 especially!

  • Monet Chantal Le’Mon

    Those are some good commandments to live by